Everybody has the Love of Their Life but living in the past undermines your present and future. While it is sad to separate from somebody you love, it is useless to keep your unforgettable ex in your life. Ruining your life and the lives of everybody else around you because you cry day and night over spilt milk is not a viable strategy and you might soon discover that even the people who supported you, now are tired of all your suffering.

There is no doubt that breaking up is painful, especially when you have been dumped all of a sudden. Most people will suffer in such cases keeping your ex in your mind only makes things worse. Your ex-lover will hardly return because he or she pities you. So the best you can do is get yourself together and start a new life.

Starting a new life, however, does not involve jumping in the bed of the first newcomer who is interested in you. After the painful end of a relationship, starting another one right away is rarely successful. You just need some time on your own, or even better – in the company of real friends. But the most important thing you must do is to forget your ex as soon as possible.

Well, this is easier to say than to do. If you have mutual friends or still have to see each other often (for instance, you work together or go to the same school), then it is a little complicated, at least right after the separation. Time cures everything, so the sooner you forget your ex-lover, the better.

However, there are cases when one just can't forget. I know of people, who have parted with their ex decades ago, have had many relationships since then and still they compare all new lovers to their ancient dream love. You can't imagine how suicidal this approach is! And how many real loves have been killed by the idealized memories of the past! Or how many lives have been ruined by the melodramatic suffering for the lost happiness!

For instance, a friend of mine had a girlfriend who left him 9 years ago. They had been together for less than an year and she was simply using him but he got really hooked. After she found another fool, she kicked him, though they still see each other occasionally. She was his first girlfriend, so he actually had no basis for comparison.

After she left him, another gal hooked on him. She was even more stupid and ugly than the first one but after a couple of years together, the poor fool could not escape from marriage. Now they are “happily married”, at least in public. He is still sobbing about the first “Love”, while the second lady is taking advantage of his broken heart and is carelessly spending his money. Of course, she is a bit irritated that he still can't forget the first one but the cash quickly comforts her.

Yes, I know that you shouldn't be sorry for a fool. He deserves what he got. But my point is that sobbing about an ex shouldn't be a life-time activity that undermines your chances for a new, real love. Life is too short for wasting it that way.