Sex is an important part in every relationship and if you are not happy in bed, or not sexually compatible with each other, then your relationship is bound to fail. But how can one know if the sex they are saving is the right thing? The question is pretty reasonable, because having in mind all the sex myths and urban legends around, getting the right idea of the real situation of your sex life is tricky at best.

The easiest approach is to pay no attention to what you read or are told about sex and just listen to your heart. But the more realistic approach is to know how to distinguish fact from myths and to make informed decisions about your sex life and relationships. Here are some common sex myths that if followed blindly (or if followed at all) can ruin even the strongest relationship:

• The bigger, the better. Penis size could matter but what is important is how you use it, not how many inches you have. The penis size myth is one of the most common sex myths and it is successfully exploited by the manufacturers of various penis enlargement pills and „therapies“. If the penis size of male porn stars is taken as criterion, then 90% of the males must feel like poor relatives. But it is a known fact that male porn stars are chosen because they are way above the avarage in that department, so it is just unrealistic to expect that the majority of males will have gigantic penises. Not to mention that many women feel pain when having sex with males with such long penises.

• The more, the better. Frequency of sexual contacts is hardly a criterion about their quality. But still, it is a very common myth that the more sex you have, the better your relationship is. And many times frequent sex, especially only one of the lovers wants it and the other consents do to it just because he or she is afraid to say „no“, has triggered the end of many relationships. Also, sometimes sex is just a substitute of feelings and couples make sex because they have nothing better to do.

• Men can always have sex. This is also a common myth that can undermine your relationship. There are men who are like sex machines but even they need occasional rest. Most men want sex from time to time and if it were true that men can always have sex, when opportunity popups, then there would have been much more male prostitutes. Sometimes when men don't want sex, this worries them and they start thinking that there must be something wrong with them. The lack of sexual desires also worries their partner, who feels unwanted.

• Women are unhappy when they don't have an orgasm. Most men feel guilty when their partner does not have an orgasm. While orgasms are great, there is a lot a woman must do in order to reach her climax. Sometimes women just prefer to have sex with no orgasm, then to go their part of the road or to simulate an orgasm just to please their partner. Yes, women can be really happy only because they are giving pleasure to their man!

• Sex is an obligation. In some countries this might be true but in a loving relationship sex is a mutual desire, not an obligation. Well, if there is no mutual desire and the couple is sexually incompatible, this could cause problems, but cohercive sex is not the way to a happy, long-lasting relationship.

• Sex ust be spontaneous. This is partially a myth, partially a fact. If sex is an obligation, this is bad. It is best when you make sex whenever Amour strikes you but if you want to have a fullfilling sex life, then you must devote special time to it.

There are many more myths about sex and although some of them sound like pure facts, don't take them in earnest. Take each statement and judge if it applies to you or not. Don't follow advice blindly because every couple is different and what helps one couple might be devastating to another. So, think with your head and follow your heart.