Honestly, I don't believe that there are normal people who say that they like it when their partner cheats on them. And if you have been faithful all the time, it is simply impossible not to feel hurt. If you are also cheating (or did it in the past), then the revenge does not feel that painful.

Cheating is not pleasant, no matter what its form is but probably the most unpleasant form of cheating is the sexual one, especially for men. Women react more abruptly to platonic cheating and they accept sexual one (unless followed by a pregnancy) as a smaller insult, while men generally can't forgive having sexual relations with somebody else, while platonic cheating is more acceptable.

Probably this goes to the nature of men and women – man need sex and they are insulted when somebody else is given a gift that belongs to them, while women require romance and affection and therefore meeting another lady, or even thinking about her is more of a thread to them than just having sex with her.

So, let's summarize the points up to here. It is easier to forgive a cheater when you are a cheater as well. Also, for men it is easier to forgive a romantic affair, rather than a sexual one, while for women it is just the opposite.

But now let's see what happens when you are not a cheater and your lover has committed the unforgivable type of cheating. First, you are no doubt hurt and rightfully feel betrayed. Second, you most likely are mad at him or her. Third, you either begin to fear that you might lose him or her, or are just not willing to see him or her anymore.

If you fear that you might lose them, you just start paying them more attention – i.e. you are bribing them to stay with you. You do this when you love them or at least when due to a variety of reasons you just can't kick them no matter how much you want to. Very often the reason you can't kick a lover has nothing to do with love but is purely practical – you are dependent on him or her.

It is usually ladies who are dependent on their lover, for instance because their income is too low to be able to live on their own, but there are many other cases when men are the dependent ones (or at least the bigger loser). And if you have kids and property together, then kicking the cheater out can be very costly and troublesome.

Provided that you are the master of your own destiny and that you can choose whether to stay in a relationship or not, you decide whether to give the cheater one more chance. Sometimes this really helps and makes the relationship stronger than ever but for a serial cheater one more chance is certainly not the solution – such people simply don't deserve one more chance because it is obvious that they will cheat again, given the possibility to do it.

If you decide that the cheater does not deserve one more chance, kick them but before you do it, make sure he or she is really cheating. You might not be able to catch the cheater on action but try to get reliable evidence of their adultery, no matter if it is painful for you or not. I say this because I have witnessed several cases of alleged cheating when there was no actual cheating but “friends” staged it up in order to make a couple split. So, in this case it is actually the “friends” that need a kick! Do it and kick them hard – they deserve it!